Why toddlers have temper tantrums - and how to deal with them
They can start for seemingly any reason at all; maybe they've spotted a toy they want or perhaps you're taking them somewhere they don't want to go.
Before you know it you have a gale-force tantrum on your hands - screaming, crying, stamping and flailing around. It ain't pretty.
It doesn't matter how great a parent you are, EVERY toddler has these meltdowns - and they can be exhausting for mums and dads.
They can actually happen for a variety of reasons, and we've found some tips on simple ways you can calm kids down when they're having a tantrum.
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What is a temper tantrum?
A temper tantrum is an emotional outburst from kids who don't yet have the words to express the complex emotions they're feeling.
This can manifest itself as wailing, whining and lots and lots of tears. In some cases kids might lash out or throw things.
For adults, if we feel anxious, frustrated or sad we can convey our thoughts with language - but not for our little ones.
Tantrums can be most challenging for children around toddler age and tend to become easier once they've developed better language skills to talk about their feelings.
Children between the ages of one and three are especially prone to these episodes.
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What causes temper tantrums?
Pretty much ANYTHING can cause a tantrum for a toddler - but these are some common causes:
Wanting things they can't have
Feeling over-excited or over-emotional
This is simply because there's often no real way for kids so young to say what it is they need and can feel out of control.
There are things you can do to calm them down(Image: Getty)
How do I stop my child having a temper tantrum?
There are several approaches you can try to helping your child relax when a tantrum is in full swing.
Soothe them - You can try and soothe your child by making sure they know you're there. Some experts reckon it's best to pick up your child and holding them if possible as your embrace is comforting. Take deep breaths and hold them close until they calm down.
Ignore them - Other experts say it's better to ignore the tantrum until your child calms down, rather than rewarding negative behaviour.
Talk to them about it - Hold them close and talk about what's happening either during or after the tantrum has subsided. Acknowledge the frustration and help your child put feelings into words.
Take them out of the situation - If the tantrum happens in a public place, which they often do, or has escalated to the point of hitting or throwing, take them to a safe place and stay with them until they calm down.
Through trial and error, you'll learn which approach is right for you and your child.
Food can be a common catalyst for a tantrum(Image: Getty)
How to avoid tantrums
The most important thing to remember is that tantrums happen - and it's not a sign that you're a bad parent.
You can try head off potential tantrum-inducing situations by to work out what pushes your child's buttons and planning accordingly.
For example, if they have meltdowns when they are hungry always bring snacks.
If you start to get worried about the frequency of tantrums, make an appointment with your GP who can assess if something else is going on.
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