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Kyl and Brent Myer are part of the Gender Creative Parenting movement (Image: raisingzoomer/Instagram)

Why this mum and dad won't tell anyone if their 'theyby' toddler is a girl or a boy

Kyl and Brent Myer are bringing up little Zoomer in a gender neutral environment.

At two years-old, little Zoomer loves the sort of things many toddlers do.

These include ice-cream cones and playing with trucks - as well as having manicures.

One piece of information about Zoomer which is not readily available, however, is the Utah toddler's gender - and Zoomer's parents want it to stay this way.

Kyl and Brent Myer are part of the Gender Creative Parenting movement.

And Zoomer is a "theyby".

This means, outside of immediate family, when introducing Zoomer, Kyl and Brent "don't disclose their sex to people who don’t need to know."

Zoomer loves ice-cream and getting a manicure (Image: raisingzoomer/Instagram)

The Myers also use pronouns such as they/them/their when referring to their child.

Kyl and Brent's reasoning is gender is a social construct, whereas the sex of a person is biologically determined - but does not necessarily tell us anything about a child's personality.

In raising Zoomer this way, the Myers believe they avoid their child being put in a gender pigeon-hole, with all its potential limitations.

On her blog Raising Zoomer , she explains this allows a "stereotype-free early childhood."

(Image: raisingzoomer/Instagram)


"The sex does not tell us anything about the child’s personality, temperament, favourite colour, dietary preferences, sense of humour, attitudes toward climate change, or any of their other unique traits," she writes.

"Just like the fact they have two arms doesn't tell us anything else about them, except they have two arms."

The mum is keen to stress they're not banning Zoomer from expressing any gender-specific preferences, or pretending gender doesn't exist.

Instead, their goal is for Zoomer to feel as if they "have the freedom to explore and create their own identity, outside of the restrictions and expectations of traditional gender norms."



It's a decision they're comfortable with.

As Kyl wrote on her Instagram, "We are so proud to be Z's parents and very confident in our parenting decisions.”

"Every parent does what they think is best for their kids. People are uncomfortable with change, that’s ok. But change is coming!

"Buckle up and enjoy the ride!"


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