Right, i am due baby in May 2011 and still feeding my son Louis who is 2 in few weeks time.

Breastfeeding has been fab with Louis, and although i love the bond and if honest, hate the thought of not feeding him and having to give up that special snuggle time, i am being realistic and thinking of seriously stopping now, but he is struggling and getting soooooo upset when saying no to a feed.

Has anyone else gone through this? what worked for you? want it to be as stress free for both of us and want it to be soon as when baby comes want to enjoy breastfeeding wtihout Louis feeling pushed out and therefore being stressful for everyone.

cheers for looking guys, any advice no matter how small is really appreciated as feelng low about this whole thing xxx

Hiya, can I ask why you want to give up feeding him? You sound like you love doing it and lots of people tandem feed, it is a way that your 2 year old can be close to you when your new baby arrives. I would say to definitely make sure that you want to stop before you go any further. It doesnt really sound like your 2 year old (nearly) wants to give up. It is really down to you though, there are some fantastic tandem feeding articles on the tinternet. If you do want to stop though you need to do it slowly, cutting out a feed every 3 or so days to prevent any blocked ducts etc. Use distraction with toys etc during the day. Hope this helps x

goodluck x

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I stopped feeding Sarah when she was 2yrs 3 months. I had started to stop feeding when she had just turned 2 yrs, but I found it hard to stop completely. She was fine with stopping, but it was me. After about a week of stopping, my boobs felt very full, so I put her on for about another week. This went on for a while, stopping and starting, and in the end I thought it's not fair on her, so I had to give up. She was okay with stopping, although did miss it a bit at night, when we used to cuddle up and she got 'suckies'.

my mum found it very hard to stop bf my brother he was 3 when she stopped but she just totally cut him of and when he wanted it i know ut ssounds cruel but she put chilli powder on her nipple and he when to have a go and it burned his mouth which then from that day he wasnt intrested

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at the chilli powder! Every time I wanted to stop I just gradually wound down to just the one feed at bedtime and then kind of changed the bedtime routine slightly so that a breastfeed/sucking/comfort time wasn't expected. To be honest I didn't find it too difficult although feeding the last one for the last time was heartbreaking for me as I knew I was never going to 'feed' a baby myself again (if you know what i mean).

Plenty of advice out there. Good luck

No advice I'm afraid as I'm still feeding Lucy at 13 months, but just wanted to wish you luck I'm hoping Lucy will self wean as I don't know how I'll bring myself to stop the two feeds she has at the moment - I'm such a softie!

at the chilli powder here too, I think that's horrible!

xx

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Maybe you can encourage him to have less feeds without totally forbidding him the breast. Once he gets used to having less feeds, you gradually reduce it to an evening or morning feed once a day.
Saying that, I am not the best person to gve advice on the matter. I fed my firstborn well over 2 years.
Good luck, sweetheart!