Gillian that's awful! (((hugs))).
I never wanted to have an epidural as I wanted to be in as much control as possible to push the burger out as quickly as I could! (6 hour labour, in a birthing pool with just gas and air, not bad for a first attempt! LOL). A lot of the women I havce spoken to, like Gillian, have had lots of problems due to their epidural. Lots of them couldn't feel anything, so when it came to pushing, they didn't know when to as they couldn't tell when they had a contraction. Therefore, they tore quite badly, and most of them ended up having assisted deliveries as they couldn't get the babies out on their own. Therefore, meaning very long recovery times (some still haven't recovered, one is having reconstructive surgery on her bits
The SINGLE one thing that completely put me off the idea was that one woman who asked for an epidural had it injected in her completely wrong. When the epidural kicked in, her upper body was completely numb and dead, but she could still feel the contractions and was immense pain. They had done the epidural the wrong way round so that she could still feel the pain of giving birth, but couldn't speak to say a word about how it had all gone horribly wrong!!!!