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 Post subject: am i being paranoid?
PostPosted: 21 Feb 2011 10:15 
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this is as good a place as any to prove or disprove the theory, i suppose... :? Ryan said that if paranoia was an Olympic medal sport, i'd certainly be an odds-on favourite for gold

here's what's occuring.

on Saturday, i found out a little boy had gone missing in going to a corner shop not far from his home in Trinidad (where i'm from). yesterday, his dead body was found in a river. today Nathan is going on a trip to the Science Museum in London with his nursery and because of my issues, i can't make the trip. Ryan can't go because he's temping and if he doesn't work, he doesn't get paid.

can't make the connection between what happened in Trinidad and Nathan going on a school trip? don't feel bad, because i know i'm highly sensitised at the moment.

i hardly slept last night. i kept wondering how i could teach Nathan about 'stranger danger' when it's being proven, sadly, almost DAILY that the predators who prey on our innocents are NOT strangers but people familiar (sometimes related) to them! look at Vanessa George and now this fella at the setting in Birmingham, not forgetting Ian Huntley :x

yes, i'm totally freaked today. i told Nathan that IF ANYBODY other than Ryan or i touches or tries to touch his willy EVER that he is to beat them, bite them, get away from them and go tell someone to call his Mummy and Daddy because somebody tried to touch his willy. am i doing the right thing?

i chose his clothing today with the 'just in case he gets lost, ppl will more likely remember a light-coloured coat' thought in mind. i made Ryan take photos of him before he left for nursery this morning in case a recent photo is needed.

i'm feeling awful. i don't want Nathan to live a bubble-wrapped life but times have changed. am i overreacting?

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PostPosted: 21 Feb 2011 10:33 
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I totally understand where your coming from. When i had my son the day before September 11th 2001 i went into protective mode of not being able to stay on a bus if someone Muslim got on, avoiding busy shops etc even to the point where my dreams (or nightmares) was about being bombed and running from one place to another. Not to mention freezing every time a plane went over. Looking back now i feel silly wasting alot of presious time panicing insteed of enjoying my newborn but i think its what parenting is about. If we dont worry about their dangers in life who is going to? The police do a range of free books about all different stranger danger issues and my children love them so maybe its worth getting hold of a copy for you and Nathan to share. Hopefully you will gain more confidences in nursery when your little man returns safe and sound later. The ratio of children to adults on nursery trips is also very low, think its something like 2/3 children to 1 adult so he will be well supervised during today. Hope he has a great time and try not to worry to much altho its easier said than done as i still do now even tho my son is 9 xx

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PostPosted: 21 Feb 2011 11:51 
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Aww chick I would say try not to worry. Up here ratio of adult to child in nursery is 1 adult to 2 children. I.e one child per hand
As for the stranger danger go for it. Never too early to learn that
I am sure that once Nathan returns from a brilliant day out you will be a bit more confident
Sending you lots if hugs
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PostPosted: 21 Feb 2011 17:50 
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Oh Lorrie - poor you. Hope today hasn't been too awful for you. Think it is only natural to worry and especially with a first child. I know I am alot more chilled with Ethan than I ever was with Laura.

On a lighter note I hope Nathan never needs to be examined by a doctor in that area -
"i told Nathan that IF ANYBODY other than Ryan or i touches or tries to touch his willy EVER that he is to beat them, bite them," - could be an interesting appointment!!

Sending you big (((HUGS))) x

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 Post subject: Re: am i being paranoid?
PostPosted: 21 Feb 2011 21:18 
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hey Lorrie, how did you and your little man get on today? Are you feeling any better? x


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 Post subject: Re: am i being paranoid?
PostPosted: 22 Feb 2011 00:08 
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<3 he had a wonderful time...it was only two kids in the end, including Nathan. the other child is his best friend so they had a great day! :lol:

i still feel hyper-anxious about it and i spoke with my mummy today about it and she was actually quite agreeable to my measures...and she included that he should also scream loudly and get away [smilie=clap.gif]

ah well, tomorrow is another day and they've got a trip to the local park so i've got another scenario to endure... :?

i think i'm more fearful than paranoid but then, that's all part of anxiety and depression, innit! thanks loads, my lovelies! i can always count on you [smilie=001_icon16.gif]

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 Post subject: Re: am i being paranoid?
PostPosted: 22 Feb 2011 13:08 
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Ah Lorrie, I'm so glad that he had a lovely day yesterday and fingers crossed he will today as well. It is sooo hard handing the trust and well-being of your most precious thing in the world over to someone else, especially someone who isnt related to you, all parents struggle with this, it is such an emotional thing. I'm sure it will get easier with time though, please dont feel bad for caring so much for you son xx <3


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 Post subject: Re: am i being paranoid?
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There's absolutely nothing paranoid in wanting to protect your child from harm on any level when they are away from you.

If you had reacted that way about him going to his bedroom or something normal, then, I would say you're definitely a bit cuckoo! :lol:

As is it, you're safe, (just! LOL!). If there was an iota of doubt in my mind, I would have done the same Lorrie. x

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