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| Author: | Mummy Lorrie [ 14 Nov 2011 18:06 ] |
| Post subject: | so Ryan's left me... |
i got home from class today and there was a letter on the dining table telling me that he'd had enough and couldn't take it anymore. there's been no argument. he says he doesn't want me to try to change his mind because he's made his decision. thankfully, my girlfriend was here at the time and she went to collect Nathan from school and took him to after-school club. Ryan's cousin, who's currently staying here while he looks for work in London, will collect Nathan and bring him home in about an hour. i've called my mother in New York and told her what's happened. she's disappointed, to say the least. i've called and left messages for my therapist and GP for them to call me back... we were 3 weeks away from our 10th wedding anniversary... |
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| Author: | KathrynC [ 14 Nov 2011 18:30 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
Oh God, you poor thing Lorrie. I think I'm right in saying that we're all here for you to offload, yell, scream, shout, cry etc etc.. Love, Hugs and the Rest Kathryn xxxx |
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| Author: | audrey1234 [ 14 Nov 2011 19:18 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
That must have been a shock. As Kathryn says, we are here to listen. (((hugs"))) |
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| Author: | toes10 [ 14 Nov 2011 19:33 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
So sorry Lorrie, I am unsure what to say, but I'm sure you know that you need to talk to him about this, and you will in time, there must be a reason for him to just get up and go... Big Hugs and there's always shoulders here for you hun xx |
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| Author: | BlondeLou [ 15 Nov 2011 10:58 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
Oh Lorrie, you poor thing  Maybe he just needs a bit of time to sort his head out or something. Whatever the reason, it defo can't be left like this & you will have to speak sooner or later if only for Nathan's sake. I hope you are ok & Nathan too. I really do believe things happen for a reason & hopefully things will sort themselves out.Loads of love & hugs hun xxxx |
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| Author: | Jaidynsmum [ 15 Nov 2011 14:31 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
Can't add to what the others have said hun, huge hugs to you xxx |
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| Author: | jess_r_09 [ 15 Nov 2011 15:53 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
Aww lorrie so sorry. My heart goes out to you! Sending lots of love and hugs your way xxx |
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| Author: | Mummy Lorrie [ 15 Nov 2011 19:14 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
thanks for all the hugs, everyone! xxx i'm realising that he was an amazing actor...he played the long game and got what he wanted then did a runner...i'm accepting that i didn't really know Ryan, only the performer he wanted me to know Nathan is constantly asking where daddy is, why he didn't come home last night, where did he sleep, how is he going to shower, did he leave us....? i've not crumbled as i expected i would, tho...i've been on to Child Tax Credits, Child Benefits, Jobcentre. i've made an appointment to go get his name taken off the Council Tax and to apply for CT Benefit. i've got a form to fill in to apply for assistance with the mortgage. i've been to the bank and opened a new account and have to contact them again to give the new account details. i'm on auto-pilot. i've registered for a sim-only contract as my current phone is in his name and i don't know when he'll decide to stop paying the bill. he's been paid today and cleared out the account. he's not called to speak to Nathan. i'm slowly uncovering his cleverly covered, deceitful tracks. i believe that his next contact is going to be legal. i can sense it. he's after a divorce and might even try to get custody. i need legal advice. i'm increasingly and acutely aware that i didn't know the man i lived with, who kissed me yesterday as he would every morning when he left for work. i'm still in shock. yet, i'm not angry. i refuse to force anyone to be in a relationship that they feel unhappy in. i can honestly say i enjoyed being married. he's spent a long time pretending to be happy. that can't be good for the soul. xx |
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| Author: | LADYHAWK [ 15 Nov 2011 20:57 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
Hi, I know this is little comfort but I kicked my partner out on friday.... long story but as usual an arguement about money started it and now he is gone, many tears shed and my 2 little boys of 1 and 3 years old are not even bothered about him as he wasnt home much (seeing as he never got paid I still dont know where he was going as he was ment to be working) I am in bits and not sure when the tunnel end will come into sight but at least my boys are happy and healthy. I know how you feel with not knowing whats going on, I was with my bloke for 6 years and although im being as decent as possible, its really hard so I hope you can find some light as I hope I can too xxxx |
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| Author: | fiffes [ 15 Nov 2011 21:06 ] |
| Post subject: | Re: so Ryan's left me... |
Big huge hugs to both of you. Hope you find that clarity very soon xx |
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