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 Post subject: Im 21 and pregnant
PostPosted: 26 Apr 2012 20:22 

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I have a very tough decision to make ive just turned 21 im away to finish my 3rd year at uni and it was after a crazy druken 1 night stand and now im 2-3 weeks pregnant. What do i do? i know im young and im not financial ably stable i still a student and so young. i know im mature enough to handle a baby and i know i have the support of my family but its to early in life. please help.

 Post subject: Re: Im 21 and pregnant
PostPosted: 27 Apr 2012 17:41 

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Hi Sam,

Its a difficult topic to offer advice on to someone I've not met, I'll try my best though.

It has to be a personal decision for one, you can't let anyone else make it for you as its you that has to live with the decision - whichever way you decide.

I've had a termination and recently had my first baby so i know personally how hard the decision is to make. Personally the decision to terminate my first pregnancy was made because I had realised the man i was with was not the man i wanted to be the father of my child and that i was't ready to be a mum at that stage in my life, there were a few medical considerations too as the potential father had hepatitis at the time. So i made the decision that it was not meant to be this time - it still hurt though and i wasn't able to tell anyone the truth except my mum, and i had also just started seeing my current partner so i kept it from him too (which i regret now as i didn't realise he would be so understanding and that we would be having children together 2 years later) everyone thought i was just having an abnormal growth removed - which helped me at the time as my family and friends are inquisitive and i couldn't deal with them pouring over the details of my life like that. Making this decision though was the right choice for me at that time.

Having a baby with Rob was planned though so i can't compare to your position, but i love the fact i planned this with someone i love and that its the first time we're parents for both of us - and im only 2 weeks into being a mum but Its the most rewarding thing ever and im planning more in the future even though i hated being pregnant most of the time and had a traumatic labour and delivery!

What i'm trying to say is that they both have their good and bad points - what you need to decide (and if you're only a few weeks gone you can take your time with it) is which option is best for you at this point in your life? Either way you decide, always hold on to the fact that you made this decision as it was best for you at that time - try not to think of the future or past while you're deciding, just the here and now.

Don't know if that helps you at all, sorry if it doesn't, and i hope you come to whichever decision soon so that you can get some peace of mind x

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