Joined: 14 Jan 2007 17:48 Posts: 25545 Location: Strathaven, Scotland
My mum & dad see my lot quite regularly since they are only 8 miles away and my mum works where we live. My in-laws are a different kettle of fish! The older two girls spend a week with them in the summer, but you can count on one hand the number of days Lucas & Jaidyn see them! They come up to visit when they can (they live in Bucks), but either stay at a B&B or my MIL's sisters (about 12 miles away). They come over in the morning and leave at about 5pm, so if the kids are at school they hardly see them (if it were my parents they'd leave after all the kids were in bed). Just don't understand them to be honest. I think since Jaidyn was born they have seen her for about the equivalent of a whole week!!! Now when we lived down south my parents were down at every opportunity, even if it was arriving on the Friday night (after they'd finished work, so around midnight!!) and leaving when the kids were in bed on the Sunday!!
It's funny how some grandparents seem to want to see their grandkids all the time and others couldn't really care less!! The thing is the kids absolutely adore my in-laws because they are 'crazy' with them, playing, talking, kidding around with them and stuff, I just don't understand why they don't want to see the happiness in their eyes more often.
Joined: 07 Jan 2009 11:13 Posts: 679 Location: Hertfordshire
Its not quite the same but I know the feeling! My family have very little to do with my nephews who I dont go a week without seeing at least twice! In there eyes its my sister in laws fault for not bringing them round enough!! I say families should make more of an effort to see each other!!! I have a full time job with a flat to keep and a busy social life yet i still manage to see both sets of nieces and nephews at least twice a week!! Sorry I know this hasnt been much help dnt want to read and run! families huh??cant live with them cant live without lol
coreys sees my dad once aweek, he sees my mum twice a week but only 4 5 mins when shes givin me a lift to town, he may see her another hour or so a week wen she pops by b4 school run.
as for his dads parents he sees his mum mayb twice a month but she works 12 hour shifts most days and the does a shift in a pub on her 'day off' from her usual job. corey is lucky if he sees pauls dad twice a year.
sinces hes been born hes seen him 6 times max. last time we saw him was few days after xmas, its dat bad hes forgot my birthday the last 2 years and coreys last year. (which annoyed me as he forgot his own grandsons but yet remember his othersons gf who has only been dating just over a year)
Joined: 25 Jan 2007 14:25 Posts: 7932 Location: Birmingham
My family are complicated
MIL and FIL
They see he boys once a fortnight when dp goes to a footy match as she watches the boys for me. She only see's Paige once a month when dp takes them over on a sunday afternoon. Paige wasnt her first granddaughter so she isnt bothered. Ryan was her first grandson so he is doted on and the twins are special to her as she likes to show them off to her mates Dp's bro has a daughter and she is doted on but her brother is also ignored like Paige is.
My mom and dad
They have my sisters daughter alot so they are to tired to see mine. They see Paige on a friday afternoon for about 2hours. they rarely see Ryan and the boys about once a month at the very most.
Joined: 24 Jan 2007 20:36 Posts: 20876 Location: West Midlands
My side of the family have always been really close so my mom comes round most evenings after work for about 30mins to an hour, my sis usually comes with her too & brings my niece who is a few weeks younger than Lucas. Weekends, my mom usually has Kian over night on a Friday then we usually do something together on the Saturday.
Ste's parents usually come over on a Sunday & I make their dinner most of the times too. We used to go to their house before I had Zac, but it's easier for them to come here these days! Ste's brother, sil & their 3 kids we hardly see. Prob a few times a year! Ste & his bro have never really been that close though.
My parents live in Australia, my hubby's parents live in Algeria.........it's a horrible situation. I never wanted to bring my children up without family near by because I grew up in Oz with all relatives in Ireland, I always held a grudge against my parents for taking us to Australia and away from family. I don't wat to make thesame mistake
I am quite lucky on this one My MIL watches Jamie when he comes out of nursery if am working and any time me and OH are going out,we are always over there nearly everyday and its a close family so its nice My mum and dad used to be the same,was at theres everyday too but my dad passed away 2 years ago and my mum moved to be closer to my sister and dont see her as much as i'd liked to but i do try and take Jamie over whenever i can and he loves going to his grans probably cos she spoils him rotten
Dont get me started!!! Hubbys dad and step mum have not seen kids for 8 weeks, they live 3 miles away and see their other granddaughter, who lives 20 miles away at least once a week. (Bear in mind Jenny is only 13 weeks old so that is a big chunk of her life they have missed )
Hubbys mum sees them quite regularly and she just lives up the street from his dad but doesn't fob me off when I ask to go visit.
My dad has never met his grandchildren and doesn't want to know them or me & if my mum was still alive she would probably have moved in so she could see as much of them as possible!!!!