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Author:  fiffes [ 02 Dec 2011 16:20 ]
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Pre kids we alternated which family we went to for christmas day. My family make a huge big thing of Christmas and love it all. Neil's family dont really celebrate it - not even a tree or cards are up on the day and you eat on your knee watching bl**dy football.
When Ella was born I asked for it to change, as didn't want my kids to have a horrible boring christmas day without even any decorations. So organised for Neil's mum and brother to come to the house to see the girls opening their presents from santa, and then us to have dinner at my mums. Mum has been organising dinner for about 2 months, and the cow waits until late last night to contest this. It has been the way we have done it for 2 years and now she argues it isn't fair she doesn't see the girls on Christmas day :evil: :evil:
We have 2 alternatives now - back to the way it was pre girls - visit his mum, my aunt margaret and then my mum for dinner, or other way round, changing every year, or keep it the way it is the now. Other people want to see the girls too on Christmas day. I am just sooooooooooo against my children having to spend Christmas day with NO decorations, watching f****ng football, eating steak pie (no we dont even get turkey and trimmings at hers), and then playing cards (as in gambling grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr)
That is not a children's christmas.
And before you suggest having both families together at my house IS NOT AN OPTION especially after what she did to us on holiday (mum, dad and me)
Sorry just wanted a rant :(

Author:  EMMARED [ 02 Dec 2011 18:18 ]
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oh dear hun I feel sorry for you hun.
We have decided to have our christmas here this year just us.
And with Richies mum getting sectioned last week I dont think she will be out for christmas, Richie said could his dad, brother, sister, nephew & nana come but I said no we havent the room and if Kiera is pregnant she is due around 29th!

I hope you can sort it out how you want it x

Author:  K20STY [ 02 Dec 2011 19:11 ]
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Just say no why should you and the girls be miserable tell her to come early morning if she wants to see them!

Author:  jess_r_09 [ 03 Dec 2011 18:12 ]
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Sounds awful Fi, it just sounds like another ordinary day. Poor you. I wouldn't want Lewis spending his Christmas day like that neither.

Were lucky both families make the day special and we alternate where we go every year.

I would say if she wants to see the girls on Christmas day then she should come over in the morning and watch them open their presents. Your mam has obviously spent a Lot of time and effort arranging and organising things.
Hope you manage to sort things out soon.

Author:  Jaidynsmum [ 05 Dec 2011 16:09 ]
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I'd tell her your going to your mum's for dinner and she is more than welcome to come over in the morning to see the girls open their presents.
For future years you could possibly arrange brunch at yours for her (don't go overboard for her though!) and have dinner in the evening at your mum & dad's. If you want a compromise that is, personally I'd stick two fingers up at her and tell her she can see them on Boxing day instead!

Author:  fiffes [ 05 Dec 2011 17:07 ]
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The annoying thing is that us what we do already - she comes round to watch girls open presents from Santa I make brunch and then we have dinner at my parents. Her complaint is she doesn't make us dinner - but she makes no effort to make the dinner special.
Daft things like my parents have each of the girls a stocking and want to take them to see Santa. She doesn't! Grrrrrrrrr
Have told her not changing this year - late on 1st dec to start demands is far to late FFS stupid woman.
Next year we'll see.

Author:  Jaidynsmum [ 05 Dec 2011 17:39 ]
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Next year tell her you're just having Christmas at home, oh look your mum & dad arrived for a surprise visit and they keep doing it every single year!! :lol:

Author:  canarymama [ 05 Dec 2011 21:55 ]
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Oh hun, thats awful. Hope you get it all sorted.

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