my partner wants me to breastfeed and i really dont want to but i feel he is really pushing me. he says i cant make the decision not to breast feed by myself but i feel like he has made the decsion for me to breastfeed every time i try to talk to him we end up arguing. can anyone give me any advice please.

Sorry you are being pushed into something.
Breastfeeding is difficult, and I say that as a mother who successfully breastfed all 4 children for months each.
The first 4-6 weeks are tough, as baby is unsettled and just learning, but on a plus side the benefits for baby are well documented plus you get a cuddle with each feed (lots of cuddles ).
I can't really advise you on your decision to do what you want or what he wants, that is for you to consider, and how you and he normally work things out.
Just know that your baby will be happy whatever way it is fed.

I agree with what Audrey says. You shouldnt feel pushed into breastfeeding. Its every womans decision and your the only one who can make it.
I breastfed Lewis for 6 weeks, thats all I could manage becuase he was such a demanding feeder, but Im proud to say I managed at least that.
Have a talk with your midwife, see what she says, and I hope you get things sorted.

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First off it's your body and if you don't want to breastfeed then you don't have to. No-one has the right to tell you what to do with your body.
Have a word with your midwife, tell her how you feel, your partner pressurising you is probably putting you off it even more. You might find you want to try breastfeeding once the baby is born. You might find that you enjoy it and want to carry on, but you might find that it's just not for you.
Breastfeeding is hard work in the beginning and there's no getting a break, but once baby is in a routine it does become much easier and getting out and about with baby is a breeze as there are no bottles to sort out before you get out the front door!
But if you feel it's not for you then don't feel pressured into it hun. That won't do you or the baby any good. If you feel miserable breast feeding, then the baby will pick up on it and then no-one will be happy.

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Hiya hun. That's not very fair of him at all! If you are dead against it then tell him straight that you will not be doing it!

I breastfed my 3 boys for between 2 months & 8 months and it is hard work but also very rewarding, not to mention more economical & convenient, but I wouldn't push anyone into doing anything they don't want to. If you explain the reasons why you don't want to to your partner he may understand more. As has already been said, it's your body - your decision! xxx

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I feel I have nothing more than support for you and as others have posted before me.....its your choice and talking to your midwife will help and dont feel pressured into anything. I Felt like you did till my forst child was born then found I really liked the idea of breastfeeding and being close to my baby without need to clean bottles with a screeming baby in my arms though this was MY decision made in MY OWN time......you take your time and decide when the time comes as you may feel differently when bubs arrives, you may just never want the bubs attatched to your boobs either way, dont feel pressured into anything as it could do more harm than good and a stressed mummy is not a healthy mummy! good luck hun xx

sorry, I left out the partner in this.....you could tell him to do one (politely) and you will decide when your good and ready!
in all honestly, men have the easy part in all this.....apart from a few broken metatarsels on the big day....

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Loving being a mum to my 3 boys

I think it is very easy for someone to say what you should do when they can't do it themselves. Only you know how you feel and what you can do. The more pressure he puts you under and the more you argue about it the less likely it is to work. If you really don't want to do it then don't. Both my sister and I were bottle fed and we have always been healthy. She bottle fed her boys with no problems and my other half and his sister were bottle fed. At the end of the day it is what works for you and your baby.
All the best

Firstly, it's not his decision, it's yours. It'll be you that is feeding the baby continuously round the clock 24/7, morning and night, not him. Secondly, breastfeeding is a massive commitment and very hard work for the first 2 months, and even after then it's not a walk in the park. Many women do not make it past the first 6 weeks as it can be very stressful and babies are less likely to nurse if their mother is anxious or stressed (they're very good at discerning their mother's moods). Therefore, if you're already against it now, coupled with the fact that you're being pressurized into doing it, it's most unlikely that you will breastfeed successfully.

It's your body, therefore, it's your decision.

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Hi Hun!

First of all just wanted to say good on ya for not blowing a gaskett at your other half! If my DH was being like that towards me when I was pregnant I would of ripped his head off! lol!

Secondly as other members have said its your body if you dont want to bf then dont its your choice its not like your other half can get up in the middle of the night and breastfeed your LO!

It is hard work BFing but it is worth it no matter how demanding it can be, I am currently BFing my little bubba and she is 4 weeks old on thursday, and she feeds constantly but shes getting better at it now and it really does help with bonding with her.

One thing I would say is give it a go see how you do if you dont get on with it then you can always switch but its hard if you start bottle feeding to go back to breast feeding as your supply decreases.
If you want any other advise give me a shout!
xxx