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StrawberryBubbless
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 Posted: 13 Jul 2010 16:33 |
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![[smilie=001_icon16.gif]](./images/smilies/001_icon16.gif "001_icon16") Heyy everyone  I'm new here so I guess I'll give you a quick run down.... My names Jade, I'm 16 years old, I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now (He's amazing) lol, and, regardless off what people might think, I'm wanting a baby... I have been pregnant before and was forced into an abortion by a family member, without going into too much detail, it devastated me that I was put into a situation I couldn't get out off...
Since then, I've still wanted a baby, my boyfriend stuck by me 110% through everything, always has always will (I hope!!!)... But because he didn't know I was forced into an abortion by my Dad, it was hard to tell him that I still wanted a baby now because I was expecting back ''Oh, why, just so you can get rid again?!'' Which, wouldn't be what I hear from him, but I hope you could see why it'd be hard to say ''I want a baby'' after having what it seems a voluntary abortion ... I hadn't been able to tell him that I want a baby and it'd been killing me! Untill this morning! We was cuddling in bed and he just came out with ''I think we should have a baby''... You don't even understand how happy I was, It was like  ahh I can't even tell you lol.... So I guess it's baby making time hahaha.
So has anyone been through anything similar?
Really, I wanted to make friends on here, hear your stories, teenage mums or not, I don't think age determines whether you're going to be a ''good'' mum or not!
Thanks for reading this lecture of a message haha.... Love, Jade 
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audrey1234
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Posted: 13 Jul 2010 16:47 |
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Welcome to the site Jade. I am not going to say anything about having a baby at a young age, as I was 27 when I had my first baby, and I now have 4!
Probably the fact that you had an abortion would make the urge to have a baby even stronger. Are you feeling fine about the baby you aborted? Guilt can have a very strong effect on our emotions, and make things seem like a good idea, when they would maybe need a bit more time.
If you do decide to have a baby, good luck to you both, and this time enjoy and be proud of your pregnancy.
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yummymummy2008
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Posted: 13 Jul 2010 17:00 |
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hi and welcome im loura 21 mummy to matthew 2 and a bit thomas 5 months i just wanted to wish you luck xxx _________________ 
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vickianboyz
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Posted: 14 Jul 2010 15:49 |
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hey welcome to tbw
i had my 1st son at 18 and never struggled at all
everyone is ready to be a mummy at differant times in there life hunni there is no wrong or right age
my little sister had my nephew at 16 and she is an amazing mother and done us all proud
u do whats right for u love and dont let anyone tell u differant
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jodiep86
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Posted: 14 Jul 2010 19:33 |
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Hey just wanted to ask a few Questions...Are you and your boyfriend ready to have a baby (24/7) commitment? Do you think you and your boyfriend have been together long enough to think about children? I was a young mum at 18,me and my partner wasn't together long b4 i feel pregnant (3 months infact). I'm now 24 and pregnant with my 3rd child, i love my kids to bits but i really wish i had waited a little bit longer.I didn't go to college and lost contact with all my school friends  You probably already know that having a baby isn't all about dressing them up and pushing them around the town to show them off, there is sleepless night,money worries and you body will go through a big change. It more hard work than fun at times. I'm in no way against teenage mum as i was one myself and so was my younger sister and we both have been commited to our child/children, all i am saying is it is really not easy having kids with such a young mind. The thought of having a child with the boy/man you are with and love seems like the perfect dream but babies put alot of strain on a relationship and doesn't always bring couples closer together as alot of people may beleive. I really want you to think long and hard about your choice as you have so many years a head of you to have children. Teenage years are the best time of your life...having fun with your mates. I wish you all the best for the future x
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shell_b
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Posted: 14 Jul 2010 20:50 |
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Hi and welcome x I cant say i honestly agree with planning a baby at 16 as you still have alot of life to live plus alot of things to consider ie living arangments, finances etc but i do fully agree with you that there are some great mums out there that are only 16. I was 21 when i had my 1st baby, but 18 when started ttc altho i did have a full time job and my own place. Not that im saying factors like that matter to everyone as each to there own. x
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StrawberryBubbless
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Posted: 15 Jul 2010 14:27 |
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vickianboyz wrote: hey welcome to tbw
i had my 1st son at 18 and never struggled at all
everyone is ready to be a mummy at differant times in there life hunni there is no wrong or right age
my little sister had my nephew at 16 and she is an amazing mother and done us all proud
u do whats right for u love and dont let anyone tell u differant Thankyou loadss It's nice to hear stories of girls that have had children young and done really well for themselves and their children.. Thanks for the support too Means alot!! xxxx
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MADELEINE52
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Posted: 15 Jul 2010 14:29 |
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Hello and welcome Im Maddy, Im 28 and mum to Jennifer 5, Liam 3, and Adele 2. I know a lot of young mums who have done a great job. Both my sisters-in-law had their 1st children at 16. Good luck ttc _________________ 
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