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Author:  callumsmum [ 08 Jun 2009 11:12 ]
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and im so scared when the baby comes in sept.
callum is constantly demanding and attention seeking. mymum has told me to get him checked out as she is worried i dont know what to do.
i cant even tidy up the house coz he wont be by himself . i tried putting him in his own room at nite but its so drainin havin him scream and me and his dad argue. im in tears constantly coz i try givin him jobs to do and toys to play with but he is such hard work.
how am i goiin to cope with 2 children??
Author:  GillianD [ 08 Jun 2009 11:25 ]
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Author:  Diddymum [ 08 Jun 2009 12:05 ]
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Huge ((((hugs)))) hun. I know this may not be very useful but when my sil was expecting #2 my nephew was very clingy and demanding. The amount of times I went round there and had to take him to the park or just into his room to play whilst my sil camled down. However when my baby nephew did arrive my older nephew calmed down a hell of a lot and is now best friends with his baby brother. I think its just the difference in mummy that they dont understand and it worries them. Like I said im no expert at all and maybe other people wil be able to give you some better advice. I just didnt want to read and run. Hope things work out hun xxx
Author:  Sel [ 08 Jun 2009 12:16 ]
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I couldn't read this and run, although having not been in this situation I don't really know what to suggest. All I can say is that you are a loving and doting Mum (I can tell because you put your child first before the housework, I know many that do not), and being so you will know what to do when the time comes. The only thing I can really suggest is to have Callums Dad step in at night time and put him to sleep in his own room and comfort him until he falls asleep. That way, perhaps Callum won't feel the need to be so attention-seeking during the day as he knows he will have 'cuddle-time' in the evening before bed. Also, he will hopefully be used to sleeping in his own room when the baby arrives, and you will be free to attend to the baby whilst Daddy attends to Callum.

Try not to stress and worry about it to much though hun, these things always work aout eventually. (((hugs))) xxx.
Author:  daisydoodle [ 08 Jun 2009 13:05 ]
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lori hun try not to stress out hun its a big step going from 1 to 2 children i always thought i would never cope and i did
i would definatley try and get him sleeping in his own room before babes arrives so he doesnt feel pushed out i know its hard work but keep praising him telling how big he is he will all of a sudden start sleeping throu for you
you will cope fine hun things will just fall into place even thou it doesnt feel like it will happen it will
sophie was a right hand full when little i was so nervous having michael as she was 20 months old when he was born but she was so so good and tried her hardest she loved being a big sister
sending you massive huggs hun
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Author:  yummymummy2008 [ 08 Jun 2009 15:13 ]
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lots of hugs x
Author:  callumsmum [ 08 Jun 2009 19:03 ]
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thanks for the support and advice everyone. my mum has suggested puttin him in playgroup on a mon and tues afternoon just to give me some tiem to do housework and sort myself out. i work wed,thur and fri in nursery but he is there with me so i dont ever get a break. i hope i dont sound really bad sayin that.
i think it will do him goos to have some independance. i have sat down with my OH ttonite and spoke about sleep times and we have agreed on a routine so im hopin we can work together now,
Author:  yummymummy2008 [ 08 Jun 2009 23:24 ]
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thats fab lori sounds like a plan hope it goes well for you hun x
Author:  mum2be_deb [ 09 Jun 2009 22:08 ]
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awww lori i no the feelin hun i am terrifed over havin this baby as it must be all callums i dont get a min to myself he wont play on his own crys when i walk out the room but are sharon done it wth 3 under 5 years old so i am hopin i can sending you huggs wish we lived closer so we could let the 2 of them play together i hope the bedtime routine works hun xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Author:  BlondeLou [ 10 Jun 2009 10:33 ]
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I think everyone with a young child think like this when they are about to have another. You are not alone hun. Lucas is very clingy but I have managed to cope ok with him & Kian when I had Zac. I think it's nice to get him a special box with special crayons & a book in it so he can colour in while you are feeding the new baby. I found this has helped me a lot when feeding Zac & trying to keep Lucas occupied, otherwise he just ends up trying to climb onto my lap with Zac! I would get him a nice box & some stickers, let him decorate it himself with the stickers & put in a few colouring books, crayons & anything else you think he might like (and which he can't do too much damage with whilst you are feeding baby). I would get his daddy to do it with him whilst you are in hospital with the baby, then he will still be all excited about his special 'big boy' box in the early days, when you have a lot of feeding to do.

As for the sleeping, we had to get Kian to go to sleep in his own room before Zac arrived, as it was just getting too much with him sleeping on the sofa until we went to bed. I think you just have to go for it & not turn back. It is hard in the beginning but he'll get the hang of it. Make a big deal about the routine & storytime. We just kept repeating to Kian that it is what big boys do & getting him really excited about his story time so he wanted to go to bed. Now he even asks to go! :lol:

Good luck hun & try not to worry. It'll all work out xxx
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