I had a quick look and just wanted to say that perhaps you need to say that those first steps that you mentioned are not covering the whole spectrum but rather your personal experience. Quite a lot of children on the spectrum actually like to be cuddled. From what I remember from your posts, you believe it is a genetic condition, and I totally agree that in many cases that is so. But there is also a lot of evidence that autism is acquired, and in this case babies are developing absolutely fine and reaching all milestones, and having a good eye contact etc etc
have you seen this link?
http://www. ageofautism.com/2011/06/following-vaccinations-900-voices-telling-the-truth.html
If you go to followingvaccinations.com
there is a lot of devastating stories.