Hey everyone, since my little girl was a month old i started get anxiety and was worrying and having panic attacks, this was due to moving house and stress of that and new baby! Im not bad enough to go on medication but i feel down a lot, mostly when im at home, thats why i always go out but then the housework isnt done so im stressed at night! I think im getting better! But i want to feel normal again! Anyone like this? Victroria x

i have. although i'm sort of thre opposite apart from to go to work i dont really go anywere i have had a panic attack 1ce or twice at the shops where it suddenly felt like all these people were coming at me & i couldnt breathe. i also went back to work when my son was 17wks old partly because i needed the money but partly because i feel like i'm a bad mother who cant cope. i know how bad this is going to sound but i just wanted to get away from the kids for a bit & everytime my baby cried i'd look at him & think will you just shut up. sometimes I cant sleep at night & i never want to get up in the morning & i'm putting loads of weight on because i comfort eat. on my last pnd scale i got a score of 21 which is not good whern its out of 30. i could go on but i wont. have you been to see your gp cuz theyre are other things they can do to help you apart from medication. Mine started at around 2wks but while i was worrying about my son who has had a few problems i didnt realise because i thought it was all down to that

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hi thanks for replying! i tend to think im not a good mum when im a good mum! but its just the way i feel, down when i shoulds be so happy, i have got a gorgeous baby girl, not at work etc! think for me my life changed that much, i used to work all day i look forward to coming home, when now i havnt got structure to my day, merges into one, if you get what i mean! some days i feel better than others so i never think of going docs!my partner thinks that if i went back work for 8-16 hrs a week itl help because bit of structure!how long have you had it, do you still work x

i would recommend going to the doctors he can give you some medication to keep them under control. I suffer from severe anxiety I cant even take my medication as I feel as though Im choking and cant breathe at the thought of the possible side effects etc. Its been 3 years and Im no better, if anything worse. I dont go anywhere Ive had a panick attack before. Although ive found worrying about having a panick attack brings them on, if that makes sense?

When Im really anxious and stressed all reasonging goes out the window, i cant think straight and i just shout at whoevers with me over the slightest thing without realising.

I also have OCD and between them both they really take over my life every woken minute is taken over by one or the other!

Anxiety/depression is not something you want to ignore as it can lead to so many other conditions that will psychlogically affect you in ways you'd never thought possible. Personally, I am against taking medication for it as SSRI's mask the problems and do not solve them, are addictive and have severe side effects: they have also been proven to increase suicidal tendencies.

Beta blockers, however, are good to help with the palpatations which I found to keep the anxiety/panic attacks in chech somewhat, although, they too do not come without their side effects either.

Personally, I think the best 'cure' for anxiety is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy or CBT as it retrains your brain into dealing with the problem and not hide from it. Your brains fight or flight responses are exercised productively and challenges the notion that there is something wrong with you. CBT teaches you that how you feel about a situation changes the way you react to it, therefore, it is necessary to change both the act of thinking (cognition) and behaviour at the same time. CBT helps you to realise that it is not the situation itself that is making you depressed/anxious, but how you think about it and how you react to it. It takes a while to get the right therapist that you can connect with, but once you have that therapist, you'll never look back.

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I was just in the process of replying when Sel beat me to it!!

I agree CBT would be my recommendation - there is normally quite a long waiting list if you get reffered through your doctors so it may be worth speaking to them soon, its up to 6 months wait around here i think.

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I was referred in March and still havent been seen I was told in May it was down to only 8 weeks waiting list!

since brendan was about 3 wks old but i managed to hide it till recently so about 5 months. Yes i still work but only because i work with a brilliant group of girls who know whats are going on & are really supportive. its the only place i do have any support tbh. i went back to work in august so have only really been bac a few months

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Hey everyone who replied! I plucked up courage and told my hv that i thought something wasnt right and i suspected i have pnd and then got a doctors appointment. Went doctors yesterday and ihave got pnd and got some anti depressents! So hop they work!!!xx

I have exactly what you described, I had it with Jess and ignored it until she was 8 months old, going 5 out of 7 nights not sleeping, not being able to do housework and getting out but then laying awake worrying about it.

Issie is now 4 months old and ive started to get the same thinga gain so I have been straight back to the drs and im back on tablets again. I had councelling the first time around and its great but now my really good friends listen to me talking about it and that helps too xxx

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