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Should Twins or Multiples Share a Bedroom?

Adam and Thomas McClure
Adam and Thomas McClure
Most parents of multiples find it most convenient to have their baby twins, triplets, quads (!) or however many in one nursery

One bedroom for the cot/s and all the clothes and paraphernalia that comes with babies. It suits babies to share but as the children grow up, most parents condier their options.

BulletSame sex twins are often more likely to share a bedroom than fraternal multiples of different genders. Multiples who join a family with older siblings may share a space with an older brother or sister

BulletDeciding how or when to establish separate bedrooms is an issue that most parents face at some point. Every family is different, and every set of multiples shares a unique bond, so there is no right and wrong time.

BulletA home's space limitations may determine the final answer, or the multiples themselves may indicate a preference that prompts a change. While every family will have their own timeline, there are several stages when it is common to make the move to separate bedrooms.

BulletIn the toddler years, a shared bedroom may be a distraction during bedtime, especially once the children transition out of cribs into beds from which they can climb in and out. Naptime becomes playtime when there's a friend in the room! So, parents may be motivated to separate their multiples in order to promote more peaceful.

BulletHowever, toddlers can be very sensitive to the separation; it may feel like a punishment rather than a privilige. The presence of their 'other half' may be a comfort, and the separation may create even more disruptions. If you choose to establish separate bedrooms for your toddler twins, time the move carefully to avoid conflicting with other lifestyle changes, such as potty training or starting preschool.

BulletAs multiples grow older, they are better able to communicate their feelings and desires. That's when parents can ask for input, allowing their multiples to express their preference and accomodating their requests as they see fit. Starting school is often an important milestone for multiples; they may be in separate classes for the first time and begin developing their own identity.

BulletThe school years are a common time to make the transition to separate rooms, especially as students need a private place to study and complete homework. If separate bedrooms are not a possibility, parents should at least consider establishing individual desk areas for each child to promote good study habits.

BulletEstablshing a sense of responsibility and individual accountability is another motivating factor for separate rooms. Once children are in their own rooms, they found it much easier to keep track of their "stuff."

Even when twins/multiples are in their own rooms, they'll still choose to sleep together from time to time. They enjoy the companionship!

March 2008

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